How to Respond When Kids Don’t Say “Trick or Treat”: Tips from SLPs

Halloween is a night of joy, costumes, and candy—and it’s also a time when kids of all ages knock on doors to share in the fun tradition of saying, “Trick or Treat!” But for some children this familiar phrase might not come easily or at all.

Halloween is a night of joy, costumes, and candy—and it’s also a time when kids of all ages knock on doors to share in the fun tradition of saying, “Trick or Treat!” But for some children this familiar phrase might not come easily or at all. As a team of speech-language pathologists, we want to share some compassionate ways friends, family, and neighbors can respond in these moments to make every child feel included and valued.

Here are a few respectful, appropriate, and supportive ways to respond:

1. Focus on the Costume
   Compliment the child’s costume or ask them to show you their favorite part or their favorite treat. “I love your superhero costume!” or “Do you want to show me your favorite Halloween candy?” acknowledges their participation in the holiday without needing a verbal response.

2. Look for Other Communication Cues
   Many non-speaking children may communicate through gestures, facial expressions, or even a simple smile. Acknowledge their excitement, whatever form it takes, by saying something like, “I can see you’re excited—thanks for stopping by! Here’s a treat!”

3. Use Positive Nonverbal Communication
   Offer a smile, a friendly wave, or even a thumbs-up! Nonverbal responses can convey just as much warmth and excitement as words, especially when paired with an open, accepting attitude.

4. Model Inclusive Language
   Phrases like, “Happy Halloween!” or “Thanks for coming by!” give kids the chance to participate in the exchange without feeling pressure to say specific words. You’re setting an example for other kids and adults by keeping the focus on the celebration itself.

5. Ask Caregivers How You Can Support
   If a caregiver is with the child, a quick “Is there anything I can do to make this easier?” shows respect and sensitivity. It’s a compassionate way to offer support and may help make Halloween a happier experience for everyone.

Small actions like these can create an environment where every child—no matter how they communicate—feels like they’re part of the Halloween festivities. By responding with warmth, understanding, and flexibility, we can make Halloween a magical night for every child in our community.